August 9, 2010
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Mistakes Women Make
I was inspired to write this post after talking to my cousin, who is thinking of getting boob implants. It surprised me because her breasts aren’t small, but she’s worried they are sagging. She looks fine, but wants to make sure she looks good enough to hang on to her guy. I told her, “no one ever falls in love based on how someone looks naked.”
And it’s true. People put all this effort into external appearance, and a hot woman can capture a man’s attention, but as soon as the next hot woman comes before his eyes, the previous woman is forgotten. It is a temporary thing. You will never be able to capture a man’s (or woman’s) heart with beauty alone. I can understand this. I used to be obsessed with dressing more nicely, and I kept wanting to look better and get better clothes, until one day I caught myself trying to buy a $3000 suit. That was the day I realized it was getting out of hand. No one needs a $3000 suite to look good unless they are on TV or something (I still like $3000 suits but I’d rather spend my money elsewhere).
You don’t have to be beautiful, all you have to do is not be ugly, and even if you’re ugly you can make up for it by taking care of yourself, having a nice hairstyle, smiling. Some women get caught in the same trap I was in, always thinking they are not beautiful enough, and then get frustrated. If you are not ugly, stop focusing on that so much and work on making something else better, like your personality.
Girls, and guys, sometimes focus so much on the physical that they don’t know how to get close to someone. Do you know how to look into someone’s eyes and heart and see what they are feeling? Do you know what things worry them, what they dream of, what they fear? Each person has their own set of strengths and weaknesses, do you know what they are? It is so important to learn how to get close to someone…..and, it is super-attractive.
Yet still people focus everything on improving their superficial side.
Note: I don’t think it’s very clear, but the fourth paragraph is the most important paragraph of this, so even if you don’t read anything else, read that.
Comments (4)
if she already has an awesome personality, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good as well :p
@nepenthium -
lol oh yeah, I fully admit to my own vanity trying to look better as well
Indeed; physical is like a temporary quick-fix. All evanescent.
Personality too I guess is somewhat malleable, but more essential (ideally). Actually, maybe personality is fairly stable but disposition is malleable? i.e. people who become cynical. [?]…or maybe they’re just being smart.
@phosphor_stars -
yeah lol it can all change. What I look for is desire….who the person wants to be, what they want to do, etc. Because that gives the best indication of who the person is