February 27, 2010
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My Beautiful Cousin (and how I deal with her)
I have a cousin who is going through hard times. She has a boyfriend that beats her (in her defense, she also beats her boyfriend. It’s an interesting relationship). She parties too much, and sometimes steals from her boss (small things). Her dad was an on-and-off alcoholic, but that was better than her mom, who gave her up in the divorce settlement in exchange for money. So it is easy to see why she would have trouble figuring out life. But I still love her.
So I figure she has enough people giving her advice and telling her what to do, it probably doesn’t help much. She’s an adult, she can make her own decisions. When I see her, I give her a hug, or put my arm around her, try to help her feel loved, and maybe give her a little confidence and energy. She can solve her problems, I know that, but it’s up to her to actually do it. I just want her to know I am on her side, even if I don’t always agree with everything she does.
Comments (9)
I believe that your cousin needs a group hug.
she’s very fortunate to have you around.
Sounds very wise and loving.
That’s life.
That’s sweet of you; sometimes it is just nice having someone be there, because when life is down sometimes people just wanna do crazy things and see that their family/friends still care/will accept them
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You’re so nice not to get in her face. Sometimes I get frustrated when I see people I care about dealing with so much, but me not being able to do anything..
Tough situation. Nothing much you can do – just be there and be ready to pick up her pieces
Was passing through and came accross your site. When I was going through a tough stage I knew what to do. People telling you what to do almost makes you rebellious. I much more appreciated people who would let me talk without telling me what to do.
@Umnenga -
Yeah, I’m not sure there’s much else I can do. If I could, I would.