August 14, 2009
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Why I don't chase girls with boyfriends
It basically boils down to three rules:
1) I would feel sorry for the guy. He has this girl he really likes, and I'm trying to take her away. So usually I will respect him enough to leave her to him. In addition he might be the jealous type in possession of a baseball bat. I stay away from that. Of course, I still might flirt with her. Flirting is just a fun/entertaining way to talk to someone, it is different than chasing. I confess if that guy doesn't like her much or I like her a lot more than him, I would still be tempted to chase her, but that brings up rule number two:
2) If she is with a guy, I will assume she really likes him, therefore I will not want to break them up. If she doesn't like him but she is still with him, then she probably has some weird emotional issues that I probably don't want to deal with, and it's not worth it. Let her get strong enough to deal those issues before chasing.
3) I still might chase her, if she is in a bad/abusive relationship, and chasing her would help give her the courage she needed to get away from him. This is kind of a different situation, though. In general, don't chase girls with boyfriends.
Comments (6)
Yeahhh, I don't know. I wouldn't want to be a homewrecker. Or whatever the equivalent is if they're not married. You know what I mean. But I think helping someone get out of an abusive relationship and chasing after them are two different things.
@IfonEarth -
Yeah, I agree. I used to think it would be ok to chase any girl, and just let her worry about it, but after a while I realized, there are enough single girls in the world who are actually looking for something, I don't need to try to mess up some other guys happiness in the process.
@IfonEarth -
Although I have to say I never actually did break up a relationship or whatever
@phantomFive - Well, that's good to hear. (That you've never broken anyone up.)
Pure awesomeness. I don't get why a lot of guys find the need to go after girls with boyfriends in the first place. The way I see it, a girl with a boyfriend isn't interested in anyone else. But if she's easily seduced, would you really want her at all then?
@MissCocoGold -
ooooooh but they are interested in someone else. So many girls are with a guy just to keep them satisfied until someone better comes along, so many girls are willing to cheat. That is true too