March 17, 2009
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Power, Love, and Control
"Where love rules, there is no will to power and where power
predominates, there love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the
other." --Carl JungSo much relationship advice is about how to get what you want, how to make the other person happy so you can get what you want, etc. Open up "Men's Health," and you might see an article titled, "How to Sleep With Your Girlfriend Within 24 Hours," or Cosmopolitan "How to Get Him to Not Be Stupid in Front of My Friends."
And yet, in an ideal relationship, it isn't one person or the other in control, it is equal, each side just trying to make the other happy. You are working together. Instead of thinking, "I want her to give me a massage" I should be thinking, "I wonder if giving her flowers would make her happy." In fact, I might even ask, "how can I make you happy?"
This is not easy, because sometimes I really want a massage. Love is not easy. It hurts to love someone. But once you do, seeing them happy is the best feeling in the world.
Go forth! Be happy, and love!
Comments (3)
I am trying to decide whether you want a massage more or to love someone more.
Just kidding... yeah, the acting thing has been a secret dream of mine for a while. I don't know how to explain it. The rush of adrenaline is thrilling.... AHHH
@gyromight -
It's the massage
Lol!! Damn right love or even relationships can be tough. Hell, even a crush can make you feel like you are on a train heading right toward a brick wall and there is nothing you can do about it. Sometimes you fall too hard or too deeply and then there is no rescuing yourself. What's worse is if you fall for someone before they fall for you. Then it's tortue trying to figure out if that person likes you back the way you like them... and if they don't feel the same, then all the while, you're feeling like a fool. You feel like you've put all your time and energy in to what has seemed like lies from the begining. Now who is that fair to?
All in all.. never lead someone on if you don't plan on doing something about it once they have fallen. You know?
0_O Sorry for the rambling!